3. Interest in the others :-
This point vital, and too often is very neglected. Even if you manage to mend all the other points quoted here, if you not dredge up to sincerely interest you in the others, you perhaps keep up the illusion a few minutes, but you end by being catalogued like the ball of benefit. I by now discussed with people who were impeccably at ease in company, had things fascinating to tell, but which did not question me the least small question to know which I was, which I made, which were my projects, my passions, etc. In small! Who were not interested in me. Know which look that was done to me? And well, a fundamentally unpleasant look. I tested a faintness, nearly resentment with respect to these people if egoists. At first sight, they appeared very pleasant, but the more time voted for, plus my faintness grew. My only question was to take the broad one, and my only activity, in this social family member, was restricted to seek a pretext to leave. I also met people who had an immense talent to show at which point they were able. By crossing them, I said “Wow! This person is gifted/qualified/able/etc!” But these people especially left me a bitter taste in the mouth, and at all the question for passing from time with them. On the other hand, I by now crossed some enigmatic people, and their talent was very uncommon: with them, I felt gifted/qualified/able/etc In fact, it was incredible to note at which point their contact was pleasant, because they returned me what there was the best in me. It was absolutely not flattery, nor of kindness. Simply, they noticed my greater qualities, and mentioned subtly which point they their liked. Thus let us recapitulate. The first point, it is to be interested sincerely in the others. Accept the others such as they are, with their qualities and their defects, and will know that everyone with something of fascinating to tell. People are fascinating. If you do not feel interested, it of your fault, is then done an try. Be sincerely unusual. Place questions about the life of the others, their passions, their projects, their dreams, their activities, their trade, their family, their states of hearts. It is very vital to practice an active listening: be attentive and sympathizing. Even if the conversation seems to be only one exchange of banalities, made the try retain the principal contents of it. If somebody clarifies you an position of his trade, it is not so that you not dredge up it at the end of a few minutes. If it you question to somebody if it is married, or if it has family tree, you will have to dredge up it to question for news of its family to him the next time that you will meet it Then, you must make so that people smell themselves well with you. That they feel vital with your contact. It is a rare competence, I met it only at one handle of any person during my life. It claims much subtlety, and is hard to buy, but the things are striking. In fact, it is neither more nor less than one only one of its kind manner to make greetings. How to be caught there? It will be the theme of a in the offing detailed condition.
This point vital, and too often is very neglected. Even if you manage to mend all the other points quoted here, if you not dredge up to sincerely interest you in the others, you perhaps keep up the illusion a few minutes, but you end by being catalogued like the ball of benefit. I by now discussed with people who were impeccably at ease in company, had things fascinating to tell, but which did not question me the least small question to know which I was, which I made, which were my projects, my passions, etc. In small! Who were not interested in me. Know which look that was done to me? And well, a fundamentally unpleasant look. I tested a faintness, nearly resentment with respect to these people if egoists. At first sight, they appeared very pleasant, but the more time voted for, plus my faintness grew. My only question was to take the broad one, and my only activity, in this social family member, was restricted to seek a pretext to leave. I also met people who had an immense talent to show at which point they were able. By crossing them, I said “Wow! This person is gifted/qualified/able/etc!” But these people especially left me a bitter taste in the mouth, and at all the question for passing from time with them. On the other hand, I by now crossed some enigmatic people, and their talent was very uncommon: with them, I felt gifted/qualified/able/etc In fact, it was incredible to note at which point their contact was pleasant, because they returned me what there was the best in me. It was absolutely not flattery, nor of kindness. Simply, they noticed my greater qualities, and mentioned subtly which point they their liked. Thus let us recapitulate. The first point, it is to be interested sincerely in the others. Accept the others such as they are, with their qualities and their defects, and will know that everyone with something of fascinating to tell. People are fascinating. If you do not feel interested, it of your fault, is then done an try. Be sincerely unusual. Place questions about the life of the others, their passions, their projects, their dreams, their activities, their trade, their family, their states of hearts. It is very vital to practice an active listening: be attentive and sympathizing. Even if the conversation seems to be only one exchange of banalities, made the try retain the principal contents of it. If somebody clarifies you an position of his trade, it is not so that you not dredge up it at the end of a few minutes. If it you question to somebody if it is married, or if it has family tree, you will have to dredge up it to question for news of its family to him the next time that you will meet it Then, you must make so that people smell themselves well with you. That they feel vital with your contact. It is a rare competence, I met it only at one handle of any person during my life. It claims much subtlety, and is hard to buy, but the things are striking. In fact, it is neither more nor less than one only one of its kind manner to make greetings. How to be caught there? It will be the theme of a in the offing detailed condition.
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